Friday, October 29, 2010

How to Win a $30 Gift Certificate....

As promised, I will be accepting entries into our first drawing for the gift certificate to the CSN stores all weekend!  CSN Stores is comprised of over 250 specialized online stores that offer a wide variety of home goods including tools, office furniture, bedding, lighting, clothing and accessories including these darling hats!  You will be able to have your name entered in the drawing a total of 4 times.  Once for posting a comment to this blog, once for twittering about our blog , once for posting about the CHI blog on your Facebook account and once for posting about the blog on your blog!  Just be sure not to leave an anonymous comment and to indicate if you have twittered, Facebooked or blogged about us this weekend.    There are no strings attached to the gift certificate.  The winner will be notified by checking the blog on Monday.  Selection will be by random drawing.  You will be emailed a gift code directly from the CSN stores and may spend it on anything you wish!  This drawing is open to everyone, not just CHI adoptive families, so spread the word.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Pumpkin People and REAL Trick or Treaters!

Just because I absolutely love to be crafty and I am super competitive....when the Ferndale Chamber of Commerce said they were having a Pumpkin Person competition for Halloween...we decided we needed some pumpkin kids!   They represent our India, African and China programs!  Next year I have even bigger plans.  We did win an award!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Three Down Syndrome Babies Waiting for Families!

I am currently advocating for placement of three adorable baby boys living in Eastern Europe.  They all have Down Syndrome and are doing very well developmentally.  Milo is a darling baby born in August of 2009.  He does not have an associated heart defect but does have hypothyroidism and is under the care of an endocrinologist.  Ivan was born in March of 2009 and is quite healthy.  He has formed a good emotional bond with one of his caregivers.  Steffen was born in July of 2009.  Steffen does have the heart malformation commonly associated with Down Syndrome.  He is a calm child with a joyful personality.  Steffen is only slightly delayed in motor skills and speech activity. 

People with Down syndrome have an increased risk for certain medical conditions such as congenital heart defects, respiratory and hearing problems, Alzheimer's disease, childhood leukemia, and thyroid conditions. Many of these conditions are now treatable, so most people with Down syndrome lead healthy lives.  A few of the common physical traits of Down syndrome are low muscle tone, small stature, an upward slant to the eyes, and a single deep crease across the center of the palm. Every person with Down syndrome is a unique individual and may possess these characteristics to different degrees or not at all. All people with Down syndrome experience cognitive delays, but the effect is usually mild to moderate and is not indicative of the many strengths and talents that each individual possesses.  For more information on Down Syndrome please go to

National Down Syndrome Society website.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Monday, Monday...

The big news around CHI is that we will be debuting a new website next Monday.  The CHI blog will also be moving and have a new address.  I will leave a forward on Monday from our blogspot address to the new blog space.  Following this link will be essential as Monday will be the day to leave a comment for the drawing for a $30 gift certificate to CSN stores.  CSN is comprised of over 200 online stores, selling everything from Dining Room Chairs to strollers!

With so many families in travelling over the next few months to pick up their little ones I am sure the $30 gift certificate could be used in many creative ways.  I love the selection of diaper bags and back packs.  With over 40000 to choose from, there is sure to be one that will work for you! 

So watch for the instructions Monday on how you can be entered to win!

Monday, October 25, 2010

From A to Z and Nutrition Stories

A new handy resource for parents from our government is a short and informative A-Z format Parents Guide to International Adoption.  This is a quick look at some key information that parents can review when getting started in the sometimes daunting process of adopting internationally! 

mishelle  at the SPOON Foundation would also love to hear from our families!  They are looking for families to profile on the Nutrition Profile part of their site. They are looking for any families who have a story to tell around their child's nutrition or eating. It could be anything--about malnutrition, about feeding issues, about how the family incorporates food from their child's birth culture into their meals. With so many new children home this year from many different countries I am sure we can help SPOON and other adopting families out with stories!
Later this week I am hoping to have CHI-Blogs first gift certificate giveaway!  Check back for information!

Friday, October 22, 2010

A Fraying Safety Net.....

Amid budget cuts, hundreds of Romanian children have lost their homes this year because their foster parents can no longer afford their upkeep

by Claudia Ciobanu

20 October 2010

BRASOV, Romania
Margareta Reman is one of thousands of foster parents in Romania. Called maternal assistants, they are usually women, often middle-aged, who receive a modest salary from the state to give short-term shelter and care to children abandoned by their families. In practice, most kids end up staying with their foster parents for many years.

Since the summer hundreds of foster parents have given up the profession as the state’s harsh budget cuts begin to bite.

For 50-year-old Reman, a widow who takes care of two girls in her home in Brasov, central Romania, the cut means losing 100 euros monthly, a 25 percent drop.

“I can’t buy things for them anymore, and a mother always wants to offer things to her children,” Reman said in tears, looking at the girls, ages 5 and 7, as they colored peacefully nearby. “This summer, the older one saw her friends go to camp and I had to explain to her why she couldn’t do the same. I don’t know how we’ll manage come winter, with heating bills exploding.”

At the start of 2010, more than 14,000 maternal assistants had 20,500 children in their care. The profession was created in Romania in 1997. Since then, an increasing number of women have turned to this job, particularly the long-term unemployed following the dismantling of state industry during the 1990s.

Maternal assistants take care of about a third of Romania’s abandoned children, the rest being placed in residential centers or smaller, family-type units.

A labor market closed to middle-aged women and emotional attachment to the children made most foster mothers stick to the job in spite of low remuneration.

At the start of 2010, foster parents earned about 240 euros per month if caring for one child and close to 400 euros for two children. In addition, the state provides 20 euros monthly for the children’s material expenses.

Those salaries, along with those of all state employees, were slashed by 25 percent in the summer as the center-right government hustled to reduce the budget deficit in line with conditions of a 20 billion euro IMF-EU loan.

In spite of these difficulties, Reman said she will continue looking after the two girls, “because of love.” Her husband died three years ago and she has no children of her own. She became a maternal assistant in 2004 and earlier fostered two other girls until they were returned to their natural parents.


But many others could not take the pressure. In the first half of 2010, 543 maternal assistants had exited the system, the majority retiring, according to the most recent nationwide statistics from the National Children’s Rights Protection Agency (ANPDC). Citing local offices of the agency, media in many areas of the country have reported losses through September of 10 to 20 percent of maternal assistants.

ANPDC Director of Children’s Rights Monitoring Services Elena Tudor said “the trend is not yet worrisome” because the number of those leaving the system this year is not dramatically higher than in previous years: hundreds of MAs reach retirement age annually, Tudor explained.

But ANPDC data tell a different story: between 2007 and 2008, the drop in the number of maternal assistants was slight, from 15,225 to 15,023 (while the number of children in the system grew by 450). The next year, 591 assistants dropped out, and the trend is accelerating this year, with the number of foster parents now below 13,900.

Tudor said the Children’s Rights Agency itself had been concerned about the number of foster parents considering quitting this year. The agency commissioned a survey that showed that 140 assistants were considering quitting in June (the salary cuts were announced by President Traian Basescu in early May). “But these were just intentions to quit,” Tudor said. “We are not saying that there could not be a problem in the future, just that our statistics do not show it yet.”

Salary cuts, however, went into force in August, so most exits from the system are happening at the moment, not yet captured by official data.

What aggravates the situation this year is that retiring foster parents cannot be replaced because of a freeze on hiring new state employees.

Local authorities make efforts to place the children with other foster parents, but this can be difficult as most are having a hard time raising the children already in their care.

Pressures on foster parents are increasing.

“Maternal assistants are older people and, if they haven’t broken down yet, they struggle with the pressures of a system where more and more children are coming in for whom there are fewer and fewer maternal assistants,” said psychologist Mariana Grigorasi of the Brasov city social care and child protection agency.

The response of the Ministry of Labor, Family, and Social Protection is to place faith in the remaining foster parents. In a response to an inquiry about the consequences of maternal assistants leaving the profession, the ministry said although it was aware that budgetary restraints were forcing some to take this step, “We express our conviction that the majority will show solidarity with Romanian society and the children in their care.”

The children who cannot be placed with another foster family or family members end up in institutions, an environment for which they are unprepared. Additionally, many residential centers around the country work past full capacity.


“Just this week I saw two children, a brother and sister ages 10 and 8, who had to be taken into institutions because the maternal assistant who had them left to work in Italy,” Grigorasi said. “And there are hundreds of such cases.”

“This is an enormous trauma for the children, who suddenly lose their home, their family, their friends, school,” the psychologist said. “They feel a great loss. Children are not prepared to handle such pain.”

Grigorasi says the brother and sister are most likely to be separated upon placement in institutions, adding to their trauma.

In Brasov and some other towns, a peculiar issue arises because most of the children in all forms of state care come from Romani families and are often poor. For these kids, Grigorasi said, being sent from a foster family to a more impersonal institution sets off conflicts in their sense of identity, and they can end up rejecting their Romani identity in order to hold on to the foster family.

“Even though they are told very clearly what their background is and are often in touch with their natural families, the kids can find such a luxurious environment in foster care, with their own room and a family car, that it is hard for them to relate to their poorer birth parents. It’s common that they insist they are not Roma,” she said.

Margareta Reman said that her two girls – of Roma ethnicity – are sometimes mocked by children in the neighborhood. But Grigorasi said Romani kids in foster care are more protected from discrimination than those in residential homes, who face a twin stigma: they are both “orphan” and “Gypsy.” For Romani kids, losing their foster home means doubling the discrimination.


Alina Tudorica, the head of maternal assistant services in Brasov, said it is becoming difficult to place children with families, even though the situation is manageable at the moment.

On average, said Tudorica, her service takes up to 10 new cases of abandoned infants monthly, while adoption and reintegration with birth families moves at a much slower pace. The block in new hiring of maternal assistants and financial problems forcing some to quit add to the pressure.

“Even though people working in social care do it because of other reasons than material benefits, we are starting to get very tired,” Tudorica said.

“Yes, we have an economic crisis, but you can’t cut just from the poorest. Efficiency should be increased, rather than salaries cut,” she added. As dozens of new positions in state social care agencies are being created, including quality control managers and public relations officers, Brasov has lost 20 percent of its social workers this year, she said.

According to Tudorica, social workers now handle three times the work load they should have according to legislation, with consequences for the quality of assistance they provide.

“In terms of [child care] legislation, we are up to European standards, but the number of staff we have does not allow for proper implementation of the laws,” said Gheorghe Durna, head of social care and child protection in Brasov. “We can only be custodians of the children.

“Everyone perceives social services as a parasite, as those who eat up the money, but the framework is not in place for us to consistently cooperate with NGOs, the church, and citizens to relieve some pressure from the national budget,” Durna said.

According to Tudorica, using maternal assistants is cheaper than housing children in family-type units where 10 or 12 children live together, so the authorities prefer to send both infants and older children to foster care although the system was devised for infants. “Maternal assistants simply sustain the majority of care expenses from their own salaries, while in centers these have to be paid for from the budget,” Tudorica explained.

Claudia Ciobanu is a reporter for Inter Press Service. Photo of Romanian children in a care home:

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Adoption Tax Credit and Interest Free Adoption Loans

Many families wonder how they will pay for their adoption!  If your adjusted gross income is less than $222,180 you qualify for an adoption tax refund.  You will be able to claim up to $13,170 in adoption related expenses and receive a refund of this amount.  This is exciting news because you will get this money back dollar for dollar as opposed to a deduction which is just taken off your adjusted income!  No longer will the refund be processed over a 5 year period.  You will be able to claim the entire refund  when you file your 2010 tax return.  This amount is also per child.  This means that for those of you adopting two sibs you can expect a refund of up to $26,340!  This may virtually cover most of your adoption expenses.  You do not need to have paid excess of this amount in tax to expect a refund.  This means that if your income is low and your deductions are high you could see a refund of the entire amount. 

Another great option for families is applying for an interest free adoption loan.  Organizations providing interest free loans include:

Many families find that they are able to pay back their adoption loan with the money they get back from the federal adoption tax credit!  We would love to hear your fundraising ideas!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Henry and David Would Like a Mom and Dad! REDUCED FEES!!

Henry and David have been waiting for almost two years for a family.  Henry and David live in Africa.  They have seen MANY of the children come and go at the Thomas Center and know that they would like to have a home of their own. 

Henry is an outgoing 8 year old boy.  He has a charming twinkle in his eyes and has no known medical problems.  Henry is extremely intelligent for his age and is a delight to those around him.  Henry does well in school and is on track developmentally.

David is a healthy 5 year old little boy.  His mental and physical development is normal for his age.  He has had mild stabismus (cross eyes) since infancy.  David does well in school and is on track developmentally.

Both boys were sent to orphanage by a mother who was unable to raise them due to being left by their father without economic support.  If you have room in your heart and your home for these boys we would love to talk with you.  A generous grant has been provided to help secure these boys a loving home.  Please email for more information.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

New Waiting Child in Eastern Europe

Gunter is a handsome 8 year old boy with no identified health issues.  He was raised by his mother until he was 6 and then was placed in foster care when she became unable to care for him.  Gunter is an extremely intelligent little boy with a bright imagination.  Gunter prefers reading to sports, but is fairly athletic.  He was very sad at the abandonment of his mother and longs to be part of a family.  Gunter's home country is open to both singles and married couples adopting.  The age of his new parents should be between 25 and 50 years, though this requirement may be flexible for an older couple who is healthy and active. 

Monday, October 18, 2010

Focus on Special Needs....Spina Bifida

October is Spina Bifida Awareness Month!

Spina Bifida is the most common permanently disabling birth defect in the USA. It can result in varying degrees of paralysis, bowel and bladder complications, water on the brain (hydrocephalus), and learning difficulties.

Each day in the US eight babies are born with Spina Bifida.  Hispanic mothers are one and one half to two times more likely to have a child with Spina Bifinda. 

Spina Bifida is a developmental birth defect caused by the incomplete closure of the embryonic neural tube. Some vertebrae overlying the spinal cord are not fully formed and remain unfused and open. If the opening is large enough, this allows a portion of the spinal cord to protrude through the opening in the bones. There may or may not be a fluid-filled sac surrounding the spinal cord. Other neural tube defects include anencephaly, a condition in which the portion of the neural tube which will become the cerebrum does not close, and encephalocele, which results when other parts of the brain remain unfused.

Adequate intake of folic acid prior to conception can prevent 75% of the cases of Spina Bifida!

There is no known cure for nerve damage due to spina bifida. To prevent further damage of the nervous tissue and to prevent infection, pediatric neurosurgeons operate to close the opening on the back. During the operation for spina bifida cystica, the spinal cord and its nerve roots are put back inside the spine and covered with meninges. In addition, a shunt may be surgically installed to provide a continuous drain for the cerebrospinal fluid produced in the brain, as happens with hydrocephalus. Shunts most commonly drain into the abdomen.

Many special needs children affected by Spina Bifida are available for adoption worldwide.  Many children with spina bifida are of average or higher intelligence.  It is critical that families adopting a child with Spina Bifida be aware that their child will need to be followed by a neurodevelopmental team throughout life.  Shunt failure or revisions are common as well as bladder and bowel issues. 

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Please Contact Me...

If you are the family that commented on the little boy who is in need of a family, please email me at  Your comment didn't include contact information and I would love to give you more information.

Free issue of Adoptive Families Magazine!

Because you can never get enough information, we suggest you follow this link for a Free magazine and download able information!  Adoptive Families magazine is an invaluable source of information for parents adopting both domestically and internationally. 

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Consider Bulgaria...

So, you have been thinking about adopting don't know which way to turn and are not "drawn" to any one country.  Consider Bulgaria.  Bulgaria is a country in Eastern Europe that sits above Greece and Turkey.  There are many children waiting Children's House International has worked in Bulgaria since 1996. Bulgaria has an orphanage system divided up into age groups: 0 - 3, 3 -7, and 7 up. Children older than 12 months, both boys and girls and siblings are available. In the orphanage, the children see new families come and children leave. They understand what this means and wish for themselves that they will be chosen next. The quality of the orphanages vary, but many look very similar to a typical American pre-school / daycare you might see in your own town.  For more information please visit the Children's House website at  We are advocating for several children under the age of three with special needs!  For more information on these children please email Nina at

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Still Looking....

for a family without young children to give this 9 year old little boy now living in the US a home!  He will need parents committed to helping him overcome his difficult past.  Experienced parents with older children, single parents or parents without children are encouraged to contact us!

Halloween Party!

Dear members, families and friends,

You are cordially invited to the association’s Halloween Party on Saturday evening, October 30, from 5 – 10:30 pm at Meridian Food Garden. There will be Halloween costume contest, Halloween treats, karaoke, dancing and also discounted dinner. The proceeds of the party will benefit Northwest Chinese Cultural Association. See attachment for detail or visit

Special thanks to Jenny and David at Food Garden for letting the association use their facility for this fundraiser and also offering discounted dinner!

Please come and have a fun evening with your family and friends, and also support NWCCA!

We appreciate your continued support and look forward to enjoying the evening with you!


Petition To Congress!

Please take a moment and fill out the short form on this link to send to your congress people. We know how terrible the programs in Guatemala, Romania and Vietnam were affected when our government put the clamp on them. Now, we have the same thing happening in Nepal. Please put this on your facebooks and blogs!! And please SIGN!!!

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Waiting Baby Boy in Eastern Europe

Milo just had his first birthday.  Little Milo was born with Down Syndrome in Eastern Europe and his mother has given consent to his placement for adoption.  Milo's development is  delayed within light degree with developmental profile typical for children with DS.  Milo shows no characteristics of significant pathology. He is reactive to stimuli and his social behavior is correct.  Milo's motor and vocal reactions are delayed due to typical slowed development of a down Syndrome child.

Milo has shown positive social responses from a very early stage of development and he has presented good cognitive activity. Development of motor skills is dependent on achieving appropriate motor capabilities and improvement of muscle tone. Milo's caregivers have been attentive to his need for intensive physical therapy and support of development according to rules for children with DS.

Doctors who have examined Milo feel that he has good  odds at only a slight delay in development and is likely to achieve good social adjustment.  A family environment will lengthen his odds on good development and adaptation.

For more information on Down Syndrome please go to the National Down Syndrome Society!  For more information on Milo please contact Nina at

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Special Needs Focus- HIV

There has not been even ONE case of accidental transmission of HIV among household members for the past 16 YEARS, since the introduction of anti-retro viral  medicines! Not one case according to Centers for Disease Control data.  And this is among people living together every day.  People eating, drinking, sleeping and...bleeding ...together! (bleeding IS part of w/ kids!) And NOT ONE CASE!! 3 cheers for modern miracle meds!

Exactly how HIV will affect a person’s life span is still unknown; however, since the introduction of effective treatments, there has been a decrease in HIV-related illnesses and increased life expectancy. Some people have been living with the virus for over 20 years. If medications are taken correctly, they can help maintain a healthy life for many years. It is hoped that eventually a cure will be found.

For more information on HIV and how it effects the life of children please go to Web MD.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Both Ends Burning Campaign

The mission

"A family is a child’s most basic human right. Both Ends Burning is a broad-based campaign to create a new system of international adoption so that the world’s orphaned and abandoned children can benefit from the support of a permanent family.

Children who have families thrive and lead healthy, meaningful lives. Children who do not suffer from unmet needs and developmental, emotional and intellectual challenges, and even permanent damage. They lead wasted lives, wrongfully detained in substandard orphanages, or worse, left to fend for themselves in homelessness or slavery.

Through creative works, grassroots outreach, and social and traditional media, the Both Ends Campaign works to shed light on the crisis that is strangling international adoption. Adoptions to the U.S. have fallen by 50 percent in the last six years. Countries are closing their adoption programs to overseas families. Would-be parents face hope-crushing delays, expenses and bureaucracy under the existing system. Meanwhile, the number of orphans continues to grow.

Both Ends Burning provides an alternative common-sense solution to replace the current process. What’s needed is a new international adoption system that works to match waiting children with eligible families in a time frame measured in a few months, not several years.

The current process is broken. Help us force the creation of a new one. Please sign our petition calling for a new international adoption system. Your involvement will help us provoke change. The time to act is now — too many children are suffering, too many families have lost hope and given up. Help us provide orphans with what every child deserves: A loving family." (copied from the mission statement of Both Ends Burning)

To help please go to Both Ends Burning and sign their petition!

Monday, October 4, 2010

Waiting Child Adam!

photo by Christian Carollo
Adam is a friendly, active little two year old waiting for a family in one of our Africa programs.  I think he is particularly adorable with a glint in his eyes and a sweet smile.  Adam had ringworm when he entered our child care center but it has now been treated and is no longer an issue.  Adam shows appropriate levels of mental and physical development for his age.  Adam's bloodwork is all normal.  Please email for photos of this darling little boy!